“ An older person in my family yelled at me for crying and told me that I was behaving like a baby,” he recollects. He shared a time when there was a particularly scary situation and he was told not to cry. And being able to pick up on them gives you the opportunity to deal with them early, which then brings about good emotional health. The sense of self-regulation isn’t innate it’s a learned skill. Rhea Lalla at Mindvalley University 2018 in Tallinn, Estonia Are Emotional Triggers Important? More than likely, these reactions are our defense mechanisms to lessen our emotional discomfort. So instead of being calm and supportive, we sometimes respond in irritation, exasperation, anger, or rage. (Heck, we, as adults, often have that problem, too.) We tend to forget that children are still figuring out their big emotions. In the podcast episode, Rhea explains, “ Any time we withdraw, we feel hurt, we feel angry, we feel unsafe or insecure - it tells us that we have a wound that needs to be healed.” While each parent is unique in their reactions to certain situations, there’s a list of emotional triggers that are quite common:īut why, oh why, do we get flustered and react this way? These are all examples of emotional triggers. Or when they’re crying, you may angrily tell them to “ stop being a baby.” Or your teen isn’t complying with your request to put their phone away and you guilt trip them with an “ if you love me…” comment. When your child throws tantrums, you may react in annoyance. To put it simply, it’s “ a throwback to an archaic trauma that feels like it’s happening in the present,” according to Rhea. What Are Emotional Triggers?Ī trigger is something that sparks an emotional response. Now, let’s explore how to navigate your emotional response with a sense of awareness. In a conversation on The Mindvalley Podcast, she sits down with Vishen, founder of Mindvalley, and she covers these incredibly important points: Rhea Lalla, conscious parenting and relationship coach, has a solution. So what can we do when we feel triggered? We know good and well that our children don’t truly deserve our outbursts. And at times, we find ourselves in situations where we allow our emotional triggers to take the wheel. But let’s get real: parenting can get exhausting.

Raising little humans is an honor, no doubt.

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